The older I grow the more I realize how many people I have trained to take
advantage of me. In some cases I’ve consciously seen the abuse and
disrespect, even as I’ve gone back for more, and more, and more.
It was like I’m magnetically pulled to these folks - in business and in my
personal life. For decades I couldn’t understand why I let clients take
advantage of me - working me way harder than anyone else and paying me less.
The same went for supposed friends in my life who, in reality, were little
more than users. They took and took from me when they needed me, then cast me
aside like I was yesterday’s coffee when they no longer needed me or my
Yet back I went for more.
I realize now that it’s all part of the pattern we create in our
unconscious minds as abused kids or adults. Our abusers tell us we’ll never
be good enough, never ... (more)
So many seem to expect continued failure these days; stuck in fear, focused
on the negative. The economy is our scapegoat, and Eeyore's "Woe is Me"
Yet some businesses and people are thriving - in the middle of the same
So what's different for them? What do these thriving people and businesses
see and do that everyone else can't seem to see or do?
A lot of it comes down to attitude and beliefs. Yes, touchy feely stuff. But
I do believe that how we perceive our world impacts our experience. My own
life is enough proof for me. If we look around, we'l... (more)
My post on Fakers in Social Media triggered a number of private and public
The Cliff Notes version of the comments and points made in favor of the
faking followers goes something like this.
This is only social media. Everyone fakes it. We're all out here to
promote ourselves and we all know it's the wild west out here.
I had to look big to get business. Social media is our business. To sell our
services and ourselves - we have to have massive follower counts. Otherwise
we won't be hired as experts.
I need to monetize myself. I spend all my time out here on social ... (more)
"Anyone who says there's a one-size-fits-all approach to strategy and
positioning simply doesn't get it. Great positioning is as unique as the
specific situation. Strategic positioning is as much an art as it is a
science. And each and every situation offers a blank canvas."
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It's Not About You Anymore
I’ve been consulting successfully for over 20 years now. That makes me an
old-timer in many folks’ perceptions. Friends and associates often come to
me for advice on how to start their own consulting business – mostly around
how to position themselves as an expert in the market.
Here’s the advice I give:
Focus. The first inclination for any new consultant is to try to ‘do it
all’. After all, you’ve dabbled in a number of different aspects of your
field, right? Wrong. In my experience, the best way to be successful is to
focus first on a narrow set of skills and areas where you ca... (more)